Counselling Theories and Approaches
Senior 6 · Psychology
Counselling Theories and Approaches
Lesson 4 of 5
25 min
By the 1950s two approaches dominated psychology: psychoanalysis, which saw people as driven by unconscious forces, and behaviourism, which saw them as shaped by rewards and punishments. A group of psychologists including Carl Rogers and Abraham Maslow proposed a "third force": humanistic psychology, which sees people as free, responsible and naturally inclined to grow. Rogers summed up a central paradox of his counselling: "when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change" (On Becoming a Person, 1961). This lesson looks at client-centred therapy and its humanistic relatives: Gestalt and existential approaches.
Definition
Humanistic approach: an approach that emphasises free will, the person's own subjective experience, and an innate tendency towards growth.
Actualising tendency (Rogers): the built-in drive of every person to grow and fulfil his or her potential. Self-actualisation (Maslow): becoming everything one is capable of being.
Self-concept: how a person sees himself or herself. Ideal self: the person he or she feels they should be.
Conditions of worth: conditions that others place on their love and approval ("I'll love you if you come first in class"), which a child learns to apply to himself or herself.
Congruence: agreement between self-concept, ideal self and experience. Incongruence: a gap between them, which causes anxiety.
Carl Rogers believed that every person has an actualising tendency, like a plant growing towards light. Children need positive regard (love, acceptance). When it comes only with conditions of worth, children learn to deny or distort experiences that do not fit what others value: a boy taught that "real men don't cry" may deny his sadness. The result is incongruence: a gap between the self he believes he is, the self he thinks he should be, and what he actually experiences (Figure 1). Incongruence produces anxiety, defensiveness and low self-worth.
Figure 1. Congruence in Rogers' theory: the closer the person a client believes he or she is (self-concept) comes to the person he or she feels they should be (ideal self) and to actual experience, the healthier the person. Client-centred counselling aims to increase the overlap.
| Speaker | Words |
|---|---|
| Client | "Everyone says I'm the strong one in the family. I can't let them see that I'm struggling." |
| Counsellor | "You've carried the role of the strong one for so long that showing your struggle feels impossible, even frightening." |
| Client | "Yes… and lonely. Nobody asks how I am." |
The counsellor neither reassures nor advises, but reflects the feeling, and the client moves deeper by herself. Rogers called clients "clients", not "patients", to stress that they are responsible, capable people.
Abraham Maslow (1943) proposed that needs form a hierarchy: physiological needs (food, water, sleep), safety, love and belonging, esteem and, at the top, self-actualisation. Lower needs must usually be met before higher ones motivate us. For counsellors, the practical lesson is clear: a student who is hungry, unsafe at home or isolated needs those problems addressed before talk of goals and growth will help. Evaluation: reviews have found little support for a strict order (Wahba and Bridwell, 1976); a study of people in 123 countries (Tay and Diener, 2011) found that the needs were linked to well-being everywhere, but people could experience belonging or respect even when basic needs were unmet.
Gestalt therapy, developed by Fritz Perls, Laura Perls and Paul Goodman (1951), focuses on awareness in the here and now: what the client is feeling, thinking and doing in the present moment, including in the body. It aims to help clients finish "unfinished business", such as feelings never expressed to someone who has died. In the empty-chair technique, the client speaks to an imagined person in an empty chair and may then answer as that person. A version of this technique, used in emotion-focused therapy, helped clients resolve unfinished business with a significant other in a controlled trial (Paivio and Greenberg, 1995).
The Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl survived Nazi concentration camps, including Auschwitz. In Man's Search for Meaning (1946) he argued that the main human motive is the will to meaning, and that people can find meaning even in unavoidable suffering, through the attitude they take to it. His logotherapy helps clients discover meaning through work, love and courage in adversity. Irvin Yalom (1980) described four "ultimate concerns" that existential therapy explores: death, freedom (and responsibility), isolation and meaninglessness.

Warning
Non-directive does not mean doing nothing. Client-centred counselling is hard work: deep, accurate listening and genuine acceptance take skill and practice. And a non-directive stance never means ignoring risk: if a client is in danger, the counsellor acts to protect him or her.
Tip
Rogers: Real, Accepting, Understanding (congruence, unconditional positive regard, empathy). Maslow: "Physical, Safety, Love, Esteem, Self-actualisation" from the bottom up. Gestalt: here and now. Frankl: meaning.
Important
Where to get help in Rwanda. If you, or someone you know, is struggling, talk to a trusted adult (a parent, teacher or school counsellor) and visit your local health centre. The Rwanda Biomedical Centre asks people to call its toll-free number 114 with questions about its services or in an emergency. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Practice
Sources and credits
Written by Ganzaa: the text, the diagram (Figure 1), the table and the exercises. This lesson adapts CC BY-SA material and is shared under CC BY-SA 4.0.