Conflict and bullying at school

1. Read the title. The top part counts students bullied at least once in the past month, not over a whole year: the real number over a year is higher.
2. Read the key numbers. 32% is close to one third, so 3 of the 9 figures are coloured.
3. Read the bars. The grey bar stands for students who are not frequently bullied. The orange bar for feeling like an outsider is nearly three times as long; the bar for missing school is just over twice as long.
4. Connect cause and effect. A pupil who misses school because of bullying falls behind in lessons: bullying harms learning, not only feelings.
5. Apply it. In a class of 45 pupils, about $\frac{1}{3}\times 45=15\backslash frac\{1\}\{3\}\; \backslash times\; 45\; =\; 15$ might be bullied in a single month if the world average applied.

Blaming: "You always ruin my things! You are so careless!"

1. Name your feeling: "I feel upset ..."
2. Describe the action, not the person: "... when my calculator comes back with a cracked screen ..."
3. Explain why it matters: "... because I need it for the examination next week."
4. Say what you would like: "I would like us to agree how to get it repaired."

Result: "I feel upset when my calculator comes back with a cracked screen, because I need it for the examination next week. I would like us to agree how to get it repaired." The other person hears a problem to solve, not an attack to defend against.